Developmental Assists in Couples Therapy

Working with couples is a wonderful opportunity to help families in transition. Couples often come in for help in one of two scenarios: when it’s long overdue, and they’ve been stuck for years or decades, or when there is a huge transition happening that shakes them up personally and flips the comfort zone of their […]

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A Hopeful New Year

On Wednesday, John Glenn passed away at 95. His most memorable accomplishments involve journeying to and orbiting the moon, but he was also an incredibly successful fighter pilot in World War II and the Korean War and a four-term senator in the state of Ohio. Dale Butland dubbed him the “Last American Hero” in the […]

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The Relational Processes of Sexual Addiction

This article is part of the December MAMFT newsletter, in which presenters for the 2017 Couples Conference, Tangled Truths, provide thoughts on sex therapy and trauma. Delia* discovered that her husband, Timothy*, was having an affair four weeks before they showed up in my office. She later discovered this was only the beginning of a […]

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Treating Pain With Sexual Pleasure

This article is part of the December MAMFT newsletter, in which presenters for the 2017 Couples Conference, Tangled Truths, provide thoughts on sex therapy and trauma. When I teach young people sex education workshops, the first thing we talk about is porn. As a “pleasure-positive and consent-focused” sex educator, talking about porn is a must […]

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Sexual Avoidance and Couples

This article is part of the December MAMFT newsletter, in which presenters for the 2017 Couples Conference, Tangled Truths, provide thoughts on sex therapy and trauma. A common interaction in couples where at least one member has had sexual trauma is sexual avoidance. I’ve come to see avoidance of sexual intimacy as a normal human […]

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Adult Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse: Sexual Issues in Treatment and Recovery

This article is part of the December MAMFT newsletter, in which presenters for the 2017 Couples Conference, Tangled Truths, provide thoughts on sex therapy and trauma. Please note that this article was part of a larger article used in an AASECT publication in 2013. I shall use masculine pronouns in this article, as it is […]

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Individual Trauma in Couples Therapy

This article is part of the December MAMFT newsletter, in which presenters for the 2017 Couples Conference, Tangled Truths, provide thoughts on sex therapy and trauma: Sue Johnson states that the ultimate goal of couples therapy is to create a secure bond between partners. If one partner has experienced trauma, Johnson encourages the survivor to […]

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Sexual Trauma and Couples

This article is part of the December MAMFT newsletter, in which presenters for the 2017 Couples Conference, Tangled Truths, provide thoughts on sex therapy and trauma: “I want to be close, but don’t come near me!” “I get so angry when I see you ignoring me. I want you to want to be with me, […]

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Solution Building Couples Therapy

I participated in Elliott Connie’s Solution Building Couples Therapy (SBCT) workshop and found the adaptation of solution-focused therapy innovative. SBCT is a form of solution-focused couples therapy, but it’s not as accurate to think about it as a type of therapy as compared to a technique that can be integrated into any clinician’s practice. Elliott […]

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How Discernment Counseling Has Enhanced My Practice

As a follow-up to Bill Doherty’s recent training at our MAMFT yearly conference, I was asked to share with you all of the ways that Discernment Counseling enhanced my practice. I became certified in Discernment Counseling in 2015 after four years of practicing it; it has really changed a lot of how I work with […]

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