Positive Parenting

As a family therapist working with children with behavioral issues, many parents are surprised or even resistant to the idea of working directly with a therapist, expecting, instead, that the therapist should be working exclusively with their child. Phrases such as “Please fix my child” or “I will see you in an hour” have been […]

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My Journey

My journey at the Salem Center for Therapy Training & Research was truly a miracle. I was completely shocked when this opportunity came my way, because interning at this facility was an academic goal that I thought would be unachievable. The Salem Center was an excellent path that prepared me for future challenges that I […]

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Teaching Reflecting Team

I have worked with the reflecting process for nearly 30 years. I value the collaborative, open conversational approach in which my clients, as well as trainees, can select what is useful for each.  As I describe my work with the reflecting process, I hope to underscore that it is a therapeutic stance that I hold […]

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On Reflecting Teams

When I accepted the offer to join The Salem Center for Therapy, Training & Research as an intern, I had no idea what to expect. I was just beginning my practicum and was ready and determined to learn. I also had a lot of fear and uncertainty. Entering this field was a career change for […]

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EFT Enactments

“The only source of knowledge is experience.” – Albert Einstein This quote of Einstein’s speaks to the heart of the effectiveness of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy: In order to effect lasting change, each person must have a different direct emotional experience of one another as part of the process of therapy. While a shift in […]

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Advocacy Committee

We’ve become particularly aware in the last few weeks of the importance of productive legislative processes. This is true both on a national level and a local level, as we advocate for our professional perspective. Being at the table with legislative committees at local town meetings, at State “Legislative Days” etc creates the opportunity for […]

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A Hopeful New Year

On Wednesday, John Glenn passed away at 95. His most memorable accomplishments involve journeying to and orbiting the moon, but he was also an incredibly successful fighter pilot in World War II and the Korean War and a four-term senator in the state of Ohio. Dale Butland dubbed him the “Last American Hero” in the […]

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The Relational Processes of Sexual Addiction

This article is part of the December MAMFT newsletter, in which presenters for the 2017 Couples Conference, Tangled Truths, provide thoughts on sex therapy and trauma. Delia* discovered that her husband, Timothy*, was having an affair four weeks before they showed up in my office. She later discovered this was only the beginning of a […]

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Treating Pain With Sexual Pleasure

This article is part of the December MAMFT newsletter, in which presenters for the 2017 Couples Conference, Tangled Truths, provide thoughts on sex therapy and trauma. When I teach young people sex education workshops, the first thing we talk about is porn. As a “pleasure-positive and consent-focused” sex educator, talking about porn is a must […]

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Sexual Avoidance and Couples

This article is part of the December MAMFT newsletter, in which presenters for the 2017 Couples Conference, Tangled Truths, provide thoughts on sex therapy and trauma. A common interaction in couples where at least one member has had sexual trauma is sexual avoidance. I’ve come to see avoidance of sexual intimacy as a normal human […]

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